Basically, it’s this pressure men face to act traditionally masculine in ways that are pretty negative to themselves and others.

“I got made fun of for wearing lifesaving safety gear on job sites. There are people now who can’t taste, smell, or hear properly because they were too stubborn to put on earplugs and safety glasses, since it’s ‘not manly’ to protect yourself apparently.”

“I always wear seatbelts in cars, but every so often, someone will scoff or poke fun that I put my seatbelt on when we share a cab or an Uber. I don’t feel like smashing out my front teeth if the driver gets into a fender bender.”

“My favorite color is purple. I’ve tried to wear purple, and nope, too many dumbass comments.”

“My earliest memory of toxic masculinity was when I was on my first grade basketball team. We got to pick our jersey numbers. I chose 14 because it was my aunt’s number, who was a D1 college player at the time. When I told them this, the coaches laughed at me. Apparently looking up to a non-male athlete was frowned upon, even though none of the coaches made it past high school.”

“My mother-in-law told me to stop whining and ‘man up’ when we were new parents and I was working nights. The only thing I said was that I was tired. It’s stuff like that. I’m actually clinically depressed, but I never talk about it because I’m 6’3″ and masculine, so I’m not supposed to feel sad or tired.”

“Growing up, I got shit for not knowing about cars. Like, because I’m a dude, I should have the knowledge of a mechanic?”

“Getting shit on for not caring about sports. I’m sorry, I just don’t want to spend my time watching people run around a field. And no, I don’t want to play sports video games either.”

“My old roommate was the definition of toxic masculinity. He told his parents the other night that all other guys who go to the gym are ‘betas,’ while he is a ‘biological alpha’ and then proceeded to make fun of out-of-shape people at the gym.”

“I grew up in a culture with a lot of toxic masculinity, so it’s not easy to get rid of these ideas, like that I am not allowed to be sensitive and submissive to my wife, which I am.”

“I paint my nails, and oh boy, the downright ignorant comments I would get from people at work astounded me. Like, why? Assholes.”

“I remember in high school (I went to an all-boys school), I would go to watch my older sister play hockey, and I’d get made fun of. I never understood what the problem with going to watch a women’s hockey game was, especially one where my older sister was playing.”

“People would make fun of me for watching certain movies or listening to certain songs, where a woman was singing. It got to a point where I was so self-conscious.”

“I was expected to be able to chug alcohol and just keep on going. I just can’t. I have a low threshold. I can’t have like five shots of tequila and go about my business. I’ll be a mess.”

“When I told someone I was a chef, they told me that career path was for women.” — u/I_dont_even_care1986

“Every guy is told ‘to man up’ at some point. I still don’t know what ‘manning up’ is.”


News – Men Are Sharing Examples Of Toxic Masculinity They’ve Faced Personally And It’s Eye-Opening